Defeating the Smartphone

The smartphone argues that love should be impossible and the threat of its viable existence must be destroyed by pointless interruptions and updates.

"When entering a marriage, one should ask the question: do you think you will be able to have good conversations with this woman right into old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory, but most of the time in interaction is spent in conversation."
-FWN

Hot romance can easily recede into passionless tolerance or stifled resentment, and then you return to interests that were blocked by relationship impositions, or seek a more suitable partner. But pursuing a modern girl isn't just a competition against other suitors, some of whom are able to juggle several girls at a time. To get the girl, you must be more interesting than her smartphone.

The requirement to outcompete her phone sounds daunting, but just as chess masters were wary of the first challenges against supercomputers, the automated opponent considering millions of moves at each step remains vulnerable and can be defeated by cunning that both evades the strategy of bulk considerations and probabilities while using the device's communication channel against it.

The smartphone is a prolific babbler, conveying little of substance. Its biggest hook is relaying Facebook praise, giving its subject the illusion that they are interesting, attractive, and clever, despite contrary indications from the real world. The phone is also a gateway for incoming texts, but these are either banal information ("I am at the bar") or fragmented drama ("You won't believe what Jenny just did"). The phone offers a connection to email, but it is almost never written well and no one modern really wants to read more than 140 characters anyway.

To beat the phone, you need conversationalism that transmits compelling essence, which is roughly a combination of personal stories that unfold themes with humor, adventure, and an invested perspective.

Your major advantage is that all magic happens in person, while the smartphone is more of a proxy that hints at things that could happen in person but can never deliver. Once you've shown magic and are a proven entity, you can at least neutralize the thoughtless smartphone by having it work on your behalf to promote your demonstrably qualities.

By adopting your opponent to become part of your platform, high quality messages will stand out from the constant stream of updates about things that don't matter. Once contrasted with the communication of an interesting person, the phone is exposed as a transmitter of very boring, low quality, and off-topic messages.

As you have a goal and ability to communicate intelligently, your stark contrast can defeat the automatic delivery agent, assuming the girl is able to distinguish between nonsense and something interesting.